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Ep 123: Multiamory with Jase Lindgren, Dedeker Winston and Emily Sotelo Matlack
What is multiamory? How can the "triforce of communication" help our relationships? What tools work for all relationships, no matter the style? Find out the answers to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach...
Ep 122: Five Secrets to a Great Relationship with Dr. Mary Giuffra
One of the biggest complaints in marriage is about boredom. And boredom is because people aren't growing, there's no other reason. - Dr. Mary Giuffra What is co-regulation? What does a more loving brain look like? Why is space necessary for closeness? Find out the...
Ep 121: The Eloquence of Silence with Thomas Moore
As people we are both spiritual and psychological. We have soul and spirit in our makeup. Soul tends to be downward into our daily life, and our spirit is always transcending. We can imagine bigger worlds of angels, divine figures, and infinity. These are wonderful...
Ep 120: Spark Change with Jennie Lee
Change is hard. No doubt about it. It requires intentionality, it requires self-discipline. It's a process, so we have to be compassionate with ourselves wherever we are. We can only do as much as we can do in any given moment. We also have to give ourselves a lot of...
Ep 119: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Love grows. We literally are generating our lives from the consciousness that we are centered in, and we have to become self-aware in where we are centered,when we are navigating our relationships. - Katherine Woodward Thomas What gets in the way of finding healthy...
Ep 118: The Importance of Boundaries with Karen McMahon
We are responsible for everything we think, feel, and do. We can't control another person, but we can change our behavior and express our boundaries in a clear and nonjudgmental way. And it's very empowering. - Karen McMahon What is a boundary? Why are they so...
Ep 117: Rediscovering Your Body with Tara Galeano
There's a powerful thing about the body: it's only ever in the present moment. I work a lot with people who are struggling with mood disorders like anxiety and depression. And anxiety brings us into the future, depression is about the past, but the body is only ever...
Ep 116: Reimagining Love with Shawn Haywood, Ph.D
For decades I tried to get love. It took me a long time to realize I have to live for love of myself. First and foremost, before I can really make a contribution to anyone else in a meaningful way. Otherwise I live this life trying to get, which isn't fun. It's very...
Ep 115: How to Connect Without Fighting with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
It may sound absurd, but the source of all conflict is emotion. It has nothing to do with the logistics. It has nothing to do with what is happening, it's the emotion attached to whatever is happening. - Dr Glenn Hill There was a lot of damage done and trauma from our...
Ep 114: Love in Psychotherapy with Silvia Dutchevici
Unfortunately patriarchy, consumer culture, all these things affect couples in a negative way. You may think it doesn't affect you but it's about all of us. We live in this society and learn these values and ideologies about how we should be in the world. We think we...
Ep 113: Communication for Connection with Emily Gough
I have a framework that I teach around connection. And it's the four C's of connection: curiosity, compassion, communication, and courage. And the compassion element is the one I see the most lacking. When I see a lot of disconnection, like those nasty comments you...
Ep 112: Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life with Bruce Chalmer
The overall chief skill of intimacy is to tolerate anxiety, rather than freak out about it. This requires practice all on its own. You have to be willing to entertain possibilities that you haven't entertained before. That willingness is what keeps a long term...
Ep 111: Caregiving, Love, and Aging with Daniella Marchick
It's challenging. Our relationship to love and partnership has to be fluid and dynamic because life is fluid and dynamic. So for many people the greatest showing of love and commitment is to stick with someone throughout the different challenges one faces. - Daniella...
Ep 110: Preparing for the Dating Jungle with Tami Kiekhaefer
Dating is a jungle because there's so many things you need to learn about it to survive. You have to be prepared, which means knowing who you are internally. You need to know what your strengths and what your weaknesses are. You also have to know what you're looking...
Ep 109 : A Conversation About Mindful Self Compassion with Denis Udall and Zach Beach
What is Mindful Self Compassion? How do we cultivate it? Is self-compassion a weakness, or a strength? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach speaks with Denis Udall about their upcoming course in Berkeley, starting...
Ep 108: A Life of Love with Julie Hilsen
Love is the reason that we are here. It is a constant place we can reside in. There's no need to look at it as work, but a state, that requires constant calibration, self refection, and compassion. - Julie Hilsen What does it mean to live in a love vibration? How can...
Ep 107: Consensual Non-Monogamy with Andre Lazarus and Susannah Rose
You have the ability to create your own relationship dynamic, and many people don't realize that. It doesn't have to fit in the category of "monogamy" or "polyamory" either, or mimic what you see other people doing, you can come up with whatever relationship...
Ep 106: Loving Things with Aaron Ahuvia
When people love things and have a sincere love for things, most of the time it's because that things connects them to other people. Like a phone or a gift, the things we love connects us to others. - Aaron Ahuvia What does it mean when we say we love things? How is...
Ep 105: Ageless Love with Dr. Michael and Dr. Barbara Grossman
Romantic relationships are like fire. You have to nurture the fire, constantly have that energy, that wood, that's going to keep it going. You have to nurture it all the time. - Dr. Michael Grossman It's important to grow your relationship, so that you learn how to...
Ep 104: Talking About Sex with Liz Dube
Cultivating eroticism is being in your body and allowing those flickers of desire to turn into a flame. And we're so busy, we're so stressed out and caught up in our stuff that we constantly squash those flickers of desire. So it's important to be able to notice, to...
Ep 103: Reignite Your Relationship Spark with Nina Kako and Roger Guertin
We have date nights, where we agree to only talk about us. No business, no children, only about our relationship and our appreciation for each other. You have to do little things all the time to keep your relationship fire going. We like to dress sexy for each other,...
Ep 102: 100 Acts of Love with Kim Hamer
Everybody needs help. Everybody wants to be counted and to be seen. We all want someone to say, 'I see you, I hear you, what can I do for you?'. - Kim Hamer What are some key practices to making open relationship go as smoothly as possible? What are some What is the...
Ep 101: Opening Deeply with Kate Loree
The main thing that blocks two people from having amazing love is their unresolved trauma's. Because those unresolved traumas get projected into the relationships in different ways. If we can heal our unresolved trauma, then from that and from that place we can quit...
Loving the Earth: Special 100th Episode Celebration with Zach Beach
Do something for me, please. Fall in love. Fall in love with yourself. Fall in love with the streetlamp. Fall in love with the wind and the next person you meet. In the words of Shinji Moon, fall in love so often you can't tell where you last left your heart. Fall in...
Ep 99: Your Guide to Fawning with Nischa Heron Phair
Our pleasure potential isn't determined by how much pleasure we inundate ourselves with. It's determined by how much displeasure we allow in our lives. So if I'm running around having all the orgasms, and all the Epsom salt baths every night, that would be really...