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Ep 98:  Building Exceptional Relationships with Alicia Davon

Ep 98:  Building Exceptional Relationships with Alicia Davon

The big secret to relationships is going into them 100%. This means having a willingness to really put work into the relationship, which applies to any type of change or path to getting things to happen in your life that you want. In the case of an awesome romantic...

Ep 97: Stay Married or Get Happily Divorced with Jennifer Hurvitz

Ep 97: Stay Married or Get Happily Divorced with Jennifer Hurvitz

I really believe in premarital counseling. You should really learn ahead of time how to communicate what your love languages are, your attachment style, and how to repair your relationship when there is conflict. Because that's really the biggest piece: learning how...

Ep 96: Blissful Marriages with Carolin Hauser

Ep 96: Blissful Marriages with Carolin Hauser

Having a great relationship is a practice. It's like building a muscle, if you want to have a strong back you don't just go to the gym one day a week, you do it every day. And you do it because it helps you and you feel good afterwards. The same thing with bonding...

Ep 95: How Long-Term Relationships Work with Figs O’Sullivan

Ep 95: How Long-Term Relationships Work with Figs O’Sullivan

Love is the most important thing. Unfortunately, no matter how grown up you are, you are still a little baby when it comes to love. What that means is we all need to be emotionally bonded, from the cradle to the grave. Our first need is not food and shelter, it is...

Ep 94: Loving Friendships with Stephanie Michelle

Ep 94: Loving Friendships with Stephanie Michelle

One of the key components to love that is so important is a desire to understand. In addition to that, love is created and made mutual is when that shared understanding is actually reached. That also means leaning into curiosity without any judgement. And it all...

Ep 93: Self-love over Self-care with Heather Bartos, MD

Ep 93: Self-love over Self-care with Heather Bartos, MD

Turning off your phone, going on a walk in nature, connecting to yourself, that's self love. Self love is like eating your vegetables, we don't always love them but they're good for us. Whereas self-care is dessert: the mani-pedis, bubble baths, wine, chocolate,...

Ep 92: Recognizing Emotional Abuse with Dr. Amelia Kelley

Ep 92: Recognizing Emotional Abuse with Dr. Amelia Kelley

The beautiful thing about being human is that there is always an opportunity to heal, and in that there is hope. But it's a journey, just like any other adversity. So I encourage anyone who has gone through an abusive relationship, to not expect an immediate switch of...

Ep 91: Falling in love with yourself with Judith Costa

Ep 91: Falling in love with yourself with Judith Costa

Love is a state of being. We tend to try to find love out there, like I'm going to feel complete when someone really loves me because they will give me the validation and sense of appreciation that I cannot find within myself. But what I really want people to...

Ep 90: Getting Out of the Single Rut with Valerie DiLuggo

Ep 90: Getting Out of the Single Rut with Valerie DiLuggo

I would love to see our culture shift to there being a wide variety of ways that we celebrate people, the milestones in their life, and their choices in how they want to have love show up in their life. Because we start with this default that everyone should want to...

Ep 89: Protecting Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse with Chelli Pumphrey

Ep 89: Protecting Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse with Chelli Pumphrey

To protect yourself from narcissistic abuse it's important to look out for the red flags, which I divide up into internal and external. The external red flags are what we can look for in a narcissistic or sociopath that helps us know that this behavior is not ago, for...

Ep 88: Loving Our Teens with Kari O’Driscoll

Ep 88: Loving Our Teens with Kari O’Driscoll

The more we can be intentional about the way that we interact with our kids, the more we can get the message across that what we really want for them is for them to feel safe, to be happy and to feel loved. - Kari O'Driscoll How can we become more mindful parents?...

Ep 87: Coming Out Later in Life with Samantha Fox

Ep 87: Coming Out Later in Life with Samantha Fox

I think that the idea of being able to be authentically yourself and embody yourself fully is priceless. We have one time through this life, and to go through that not being able to be authentically yourself is a very painful journey. So I feel that it is truly worth...

Ep 86: Holy Love with Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley

Ep 86: Holy Love with Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley

We live in Seattle, where you barely see the sun in the winter and you begin to ask, does the sun even exist anymore? And yet, in the spring, there it is. It's been there the whole time, behind the clouds. And that's what I want people to know about love. Even if...

Ep 85: Open Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson

Ep 85: Open Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson

Monogamy used to be synonymous with the word morality. And now it's much more about honesty, and integrity. Can you really be honest about who you are and what you want? And the agreements that you make can be flexible and fluid over time. The good thing about that...

Ep 84: The Practice of Love with Lair Torrent

Ep 84: The Practice of Love with Lair Torrent

There are four fundamental question we can seek to answer for our partner: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? These questions are at the root of our wounding. We come into this world as little babies, and we look around and ask these question. And...

Ep 83: Changing Unhealthy Patterns with Dr. Marni Feuerman

Ep 83: Changing Unhealthy Patterns with Dr. Marni Feuerman

You don't have to be a victim of whatever early life experiences you have had, whether it is trauma, negative experiences, or patterns that you have held for a long time. We have a lot more information than we did long ago about love, and there are a lot of serious...

Ep 82: Big Love with Scott Stabile

Ep 82: Big Love with Scott Stabile

I believe in the power of love, beyond anything else. Period. I don't think there's anything that creates more healing in our world than love. And if we're all honest in ourselves, what we all want more than anything is to be seen and loved, and to give love to...

Ep 81: Self-Compassion in our Daily Lives with Megan Prager

Ep 81: Self-Compassion in our Daily Lives with Megan Prager

We can't have mindfulness, we can't be fully open and be open to what's here, particularly if what is here is difficult, if we don't have the safety or support that compassion creates.And we can't respond to our suffering or another person's suffering with compassion...

Ep 80: Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr Holly Richmond

Ep 80: Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr Holly Richmond

I feel like in our society we are taught to ask, "what do I want my life to look like?" and I honestly feel like that's not the right question. It's more, "what do I want my life to feel like?"So it's not about money, it's about balance. It's about being able to...

Ep 79: Recovering from Divorce with Karen McMahon

Ep 79: Recovering from Divorce with Karen McMahon

Research has proven that children are much worse off in a house with stress, tension, and conflict, than in two households that are peaceful. And if you are staying for the children, take a look at what you are teaching your children about what intimate love should...

Ep 78: Loving Completely with Dr. Keith Witt

Ep 78: Loving Completely with Dr. Keith Witt

A committed relationship is a friendship, a love affair, and a capacity to heal injuries. Those are are three foundations of a good committed relationship. And the way you maintain that is by being responsive to each other. Noticing the other person's emotional states...

Ep 77: Surviving Parenthood with Kara Hoppe

Ep 77: Surviving Parenthood with Kara Hoppe

Becoming a parent is one of the most vulnerable and transformative life events. There are so many hopes and fears in the act. Becoming a parent is a new identity that you're never recused from, you're never not a parent, and there's never another experience like that...

Ep 76: Healing Your Disappointing  Love Life with Dr. Thomas Jordan

Ep 76: Healing Your Disappointing Love Life with Dr. Thomas Jordan

A love relationship is something you have to work on for as long as you are in that relationship. I think that it is a evolving experience, and when two people are working on the relationship, that's when it is as it best.So it's not just about finding the right...

Ep 75: What It Means to Be Bisexual with Ritch Savin-Williams

Ep 75: What It Means to Be Bisexual with Ritch Savin-Williams

I happen to think that the human experience is quite broad and we ought to not narrow it to little categories. In my past, I had used the labels, when I was doing survey research. But when I began actually talking to young people, and interviewing them, all the young...

Ep 74: Getting in Relationship Shape with Roy Biancalana

Ep 74: Getting in Relationship Shape with Roy Biancalana

So many people are working on their race-day strategy, but aren't ready to run the race at all. People always ask me about where to meet people, what to wear, what to say, but they don't ask what it means to actually be ready to be in a relationship with someone. The...