Love is the most important thing. Unfortunately, no matter how grown up you are, you are still a little baby when it comes to love. What that means is we all need to be emotionally bonded, from the cradle to the grave. Our first need is not food and shelter, it is emotional bonds, without it you would die.
So your organism is built to detect, “is there somebody there?” And now when you are an adult, that system is focused on your partner. So when your partner seems like they are not there for you, for whatever reason, you’re going to feel threatened at a very deep limbic system level, your emotional body. So you will protest, and your partner will react, and you’re going to argue in this cycle of hurt and reaction.
So really you are fighting because you love each other so much.
– Figs O’Sullivan
Why do two loving, kind, successful people, still end up fighting? How do long term relationships work, and what can we do to make them work better? What is the one true relationship problem?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and entrepreneur Figs O’Sullivan on How Long-Term Relationships Work.
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About Figs O’Sullivan
Figs O’Sullivan is a psychotherapist, counselor, and entrepreneur specializing in helping couples and individuals feel more connected in their relationship.
One of the most sought-after couples therapist to the movers and shakers of Silicon Valley, Figs is the creator of the Empathi Method, which uses quizzes, reports, coaching, counseling, and more to provide personalized relationship guidance for individuals and couples.
He’s been featured in dozens of podcasts and on NPRs All Things Considered. Passionate about Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Stayed connected with Figs O’Sullivan:
- https://www.therapywithfigs.com/
- https://www.facebook.com/TherapywithFigs/
- https://twitter.com/FiachraFigs
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/fiachrafigs/
- https://empathi.com
- https://get.empathi.com/comehere
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